"Too many people grow up. That's the real trouble with the world, too many people
grow up. They forget. The don't remember whats it like to be 12 years old. They patronize."
- Walt Disney
Growing up. Two words that are used often. We use them in various situations- sometimes in anger, sometimes in hope of the future, sometimes while reminiscing about the past.
Never do we really think and ponder over the meanings behind the words and the phrases commonly used by us or on us. But usually that's a good thing. Sitting and analysing every little thing might not be such a good idea.
As kids, we'd all wanted to grow up. "Being an adult would feel so cool." You can drive. Drink. You don't have curfews to meet or homework to finish. That's what we'd imagine. But as adults, every body wishes they could go back to being a kid. Life was so much more easier then. You weren't expected to be responsible then. How one misses games of hide and seek, lock and key. The best thing was the fact we had the luxury of making mistakes. Now, we live a life with no teachers and yet every little mistake may have a big consequence. In the simplest of words, I'd put it as, "The other side of the fence is always greener."
A while ago I randomly happened to watch a certain Swami Parthasarthy's interview while browsing through different channels. These days with uncertainties rising in every sphere of life many of us turn to god or to 'gurujis' to find answers and happiness. Anyway he said something very very simple that we all know but fail to acknowledge. The gist of it is:
He was asked, "Why are we unhappy?"
We are because we are always unsatisfied. We're always looking for something more in life. And in that search we forget to see what we already do have. For example, in the summer season people wish for winter. But when winter comes, people wish for spring. We know the nature will take it's course yet we lust for something else and in that search we fail to enjoy what we have.
Very simple and very true.
As we grow up, we begin to learn things that may contradict to the beliefs imbibed in us through our formative years. Is that tragic? There be several things. For one, we all believe in happy endings. And we all believe that we'll find our perfect little world that we imagine. That's maybe because of the fairy tales we read as kids. But as you grow, you realise it's not really easy to find that perfect world. Sometimes impossible. And in that you start adjusting to things rather than questioning the wrong.
Another thing is that as kids we are taught and feel that an adult can't be wrong. Your father can't make mistakes. Or your grandmother has full knowledge on whats wrong and whats right. But gradually we begin to realise that everyone in this world will disappoint you at some point of time. Whether it's your parent or your spouse or your best friend, sibling or grandparent. And you'll probably do the same.If one comes to think of it initially when this realisation dawns upon self, it can be a little disappointing. No not disappointing, rather I can't find the word for that particular feeling. But somehow it gives birth to a tiny voice inside you, telling you, you have to figure the world on your own.
I would say, everyday, everybody is making mistakes. Everybody is finding answers. Everybody is learning, figuring out what they want out life. Everybody is still growing up.
grow up. They forget. The don't remember whats it like to be 12 years old. They patronize."
- Walt Disney
Never do we really think and ponder over the meanings behind the words and the phrases commonly used by us or on us. But usually that's a good thing. Sitting and analysing every little thing might not be such a good idea.
As kids, we'd all wanted to grow up. "Being an adult would feel so cool." You can drive. Drink. You don't have curfews to meet or homework to finish. That's what we'd imagine. But as adults, every body wishes they could go back to being a kid. Life was so much more easier then. You weren't expected to be responsible then. How one misses games of hide and seek, lock and key. The best thing was the fact we had the luxury of making mistakes. Now, we live a life with no teachers and yet every little mistake may have a big consequence. In the simplest of words, I'd put it as, "The other side of the fence is always greener."
A while ago I randomly happened to watch a certain Swami Parthasarthy's interview while browsing through different channels. These days with uncertainties rising in every sphere of life many of us turn to god or to 'gurujis' to find answers and happiness. Anyway he said something very very simple that we all know but fail to acknowledge. The gist of it is:
He was asked, "Why are we unhappy?"
We are because we are always unsatisfied. We're always looking for something more in life. And in that search we forget to see what we already do have. For example, in the summer season people wish for winter. But when winter comes, people wish for spring. We know the nature will take it's course yet we lust for something else and in that search we fail to enjoy what we have.
Very simple and very true.
As we grow up, we begin to learn things that may contradict to the beliefs imbibed in us through our formative years. Is that tragic? There be several things. For one, we all believe in happy endings. And we all believe that we'll find our perfect little world that we imagine. That's maybe because of the fairy tales we read as kids. But as you grow, you realise it's not really easy to find that perfect world. Sometimes impossible. And in that you start adjusting to things rather than questioning the wrong.
Another thing is that as kids we are taught and feel that an adult can't be wrong. Your father can't make mistakes. Or your grandmother has full knowledge on whats wrong and whats right. But gradually we begin to realise that everyone in this world will disappoint you at some point of time. Whether it's your parent or your spouse or your best friend, sibling or grandparent. And you'll probably do the same.If one comes to think of it initially when this realisation dawns upon self, it can be a little disappointing. No not disappointing, rather I can't find the word for that particular feeling. But somehow it gives birth to a tiny voice inside you, telling you, you have to figure the world on your own.
"The day the child realizes that adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent;
the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise."
- Alden Nowlan
I would say, everyday, everybody is making mistakes. Everybody is finding answers. Everybody is learning, figuring out what they want out life. Everybody is still growing up.
